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Writing isn’t just a hobby for me – it’s a passion. Since I was a child, writing has been a way of learning, understanding, sharing, reflecting, inspiring, and motivating myself and others. I’m honored to share them with you and welcome your comments or suggestions. We’re all growing together!
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on life
Writing isn’t just a hobby for me – it’s a passion. Since I was a child, writing has been a way of learning, understanding, sharing, reflecting, inspiring, and motivating myself and others. I’m honored to share them with you and welcome your comments or suggestions. We’re all growing together!
articles on life
Writing isn’t just a hobby for me – it’s a passion. Since I was a child, writing has been a way of learning, understanding, sharing, reflecting, inspiring, and motivating myself and others. I’m honored to share them with you and welcome your comments or suggestions. We’re all growing together!
Chelsey’s articles
Discover transformational articles on healing from narcissistic abuse, interpersonal trauma, toxic relationships, gaslighting, thriving as an introvert/empath, self-worth, intuition, anxiety, relationships, self-trust, boundaries, and more!
How Narcissists Use Mental Health Concepts Against You
We mix real mental health terms into our daily lives, calling someone we don’t like a “narcissist” and claiming to have “bipolar” because we can’t decide what we want for lunch. But when we flippantly use serious mental health concepts in a frivolous way… The terms lose their significance and impact. “Narcissist” went from a word no one used – to a word everyone uses.
Is There a Difference Between Dysfunctional and Abusive Behavior?
How can you tell if you’re in a relationship with a *toxic* person (and need to run away immediately)... Or a *dysfunctional* person? I believe many times we end up tolerating toxic relationships because we aren’t sure where the line is. We think things like: We can...
Are You Walking On Eggshells In Your Relationship?
“Walking on eggshells” is a term we often associate with physically abusive relationships. It’s the idea that you end up feeling like you have to “walk on eggshells” so you don’t *upset* the abuser - in this way, you’re trying to keep yourself safe. Walking on...
People Lie – But Their Actions Do Not
We should be looking *much* more closely at someone’s actions than their words. People can say anything they want. We use the same process (speaking) to tell both a truth and a lie. Many people become overwhelmed with trying to decipher what’s healthy or unhealthy,...
The Hidden Trauma Associated With A Neglectful Narcissist
When you’re being devalued by a neglectful narcissist, they put you down in subtle ways. They act like you don’t exist. If you cry, they don’t console you or show emotion. If you talk to them, they look right through you. If you try to connect with them, they give you a punishing silent treatment. Over time, the neglect adds up and starts impacting you in ways you may not even recognize as being caused from their abuse.
Healthy People Don’t Play Games In Relationships
Do you know why you always feel so confused, foggy, and disoriented when dealing with toxic people? Because you’re only EVER dealing with the tip of the iceberg. What they’re SAYING vs. what they’re DOING (when you’re not looking) - are two VERY different things. So...
The Facade of a Narcissist
Are narcissists *always* cruel?Why can they be both nice AND mean at times?They don’t treat everyone poorly - maybe I’m the problem? Let’s break this down. Most narcissists are very charming, act like social chameleons and can blend in seamlessly into any environment....
What Are Flying Monkeys And How Can They Harm You?
Walking away from or setting boundaries with toxic people is difficult enough on its own. But add in flying monkeys? And it can feel near impossible. You see, narcissists can only survive if people believe their lies and manipulations. That’s why they’re often very...
Relationship Myths That Will Destroy You
Some relationships myths will destroy you, here’s why. We’ve all heard them. Relationship advice that’s supposed to “help” you. It tells us what to believe about relationships. How to make relationships “work”. And what you can and can’t expect from a significant other. Some are based on wise truths. But most are overly simplified opinions that should never have been normalized in the first place.
The Facts About Reactive Abuse
Reactive abuse happens when a person (the victim) eventually reacts to the abuse that is happening to them. For example, if someone has chronically demeaned, belittled, or criticized you, and you eventually lash out and yell at them, that’s reactive abuse.
Why Does It Get Worse After Marrying A Narcissist?
If narcissists don’t really want to commit…then why do they get married? It’s a legitimate (yet misguided) question. Because when narcissists decide to get married, their behavior doesn’t change. They will still gaslight, minimize, belittle, and demean you.
The Real Purpose of a Smear Campaign
Smear campaigns aren’t as simple as the narcissist just spreading lies about you. Narcissists are masters of manipulation. They have a method…a way in which they say things…so people begin to question what they really know about you.
Narcissists Do Not Care About Evidence
When you’re being gaslighted, you initially think it’s a matter of evidence. But, what we so often painfully find out, is that it was never about lack of knowledge or proof. Because even after we prove – with solid, irrefutable evidence – that what we’re saying is true…the narcissist still denies it!
Toxic Breakups: The Harm of Friends and Family Staying “Neutral”
Toxic relationships are messy. And they often get even messier when they end. Partly because of the narcissist’s use of a smear campaign. And partly because of the reactions you get from friends and family about the relationship ending.
Why Do Narcissistic Relationships Leave You Feeling So Isolated?
People who’ve never personally experienced or witnessed narcissistic abuse just don’t “get it”. They tell you to move on, get over it, and let it go. But it’s just not that simple.
Chelsey’s Articles
Discover transformational articles on healing from narcissistic abuse, interpersonal trauma, toxic relationships, gaslighting, thriving as an introvert/empath, self-worth, intuition, anxiety, relationships, self-trust, boundaries, and more!
How Narcissists Use Mental Health Concepts Against You
We mix real mental health terms into our daily lives, calling someone we don’t like a “narcissist” and claiming to have “bipolar” because we can’t decide what we want for lunch. But when we flippantly use serious mental health concepts in a frivolous way… The terms lose their significance and impact. “Narcissist” went from a word no one used – to a word everyone uses.
Is There a Difference Between Dysfunctional and Abusive Behavior?
How can you tell if you’re in a relationship with a *toxic* person (and need to run away immediately)... Or a *dysfunctional* person? I believe many times we end up tolerating toxic relationships because we aren’t sure where the line is. We think things like: We can...
Are You Walking On Eggshells In Your Relationship?
“Walking on eggshells” is a term we often associate with physically abusive relationships. It’s the idea that you end up feeling like you have to “walk on eggshells” so you don’t *upset* the abuser - in this way, you’re trying to keep yourself safe. Walking on...
People Lie – But Their Actions Do Not
We should be looking *much* more closely at someone’s actions than their words. People can say anything they want. We use the same process (speaking) to tell both a truth and a lie. Many people become overwhelmed with trying to decipher what’s healthy or unhealthy,...
The Hidden Trauma Associated With A Neglectful Narcissist
When you’re being devalued by a neglectful narcissist, they put you down in subtle ways. They act like you don’t exist. If you cry, they don’t console you or show emotion. If you talk to them, they look right through you. If you try to connect with them, they give you a punishing silent treatment. Over time, the neglect adds up and starts impacting you in ways you may not even recognize as being caused from their abuse.
Healthy People Don’t Play Games In Relationships
Do you know why you always feel so confused, foggy, and disoriented when dealing with toxic people? Because you’re only EVER dealing with the tip of the iceberg. What they’re SAYING vs. what they’re DOING (when you’re not looking) - are two VERY different things. So...
The Facade of a Narcissist
Are narcissists *always* cruel?Why can they be both nice AND mean at times?They don’t treat everyone poorly - maybe I’m the problem? Let’s break this down. Most narcissists are very charming, act like social chameleons and can blend in seamlessly into any environment....
What Are Flying Monkeys And How Can They Harm You?
Walking away from or setting boundaries with toxic people is difficult enough on its own. But add in flying monkeys? And it can feel near impossible. You see, narcissists can only survive if people believe their lies and manipulations. That’s why they’re often very...
Relationship Myths That Will Destroy You
Some relationships myths will destroy you, here’s why. We’ve all heard them. Relationship advice that’s supposed to “help” you. It tells us what to believe about relationships. How to make relationships “work”. And what you can and can’t expect from a significant other. Some are based on wise truths. But most are overly simplified opinions that should never have been normalized in the first place.
The Facts About Reactive Abuse
Reactive abuse happens when a person (the victim) eventually reacts to the abuse that is happening to them. For example, if someone has chronically demeaned, belittled, or criticized you, and you eventually lash out and yell at them, that’s reactive abuse.
Why Does It Get Worse After Marrying A Narcissist?
If narcissists don’t really want to commit…then why do they get married? It’s a legitimate (yet misguided) question. Because when narcissists decide to get married, their behavior doesn’t change. They will still gaslight, minimize, belittle, and demean you.
The Real Purpose of a Smear Campaign
Smear campaigns aren’t as simple as the narcissist just spreading lies about you. Narcissists are masters of manipulation. They have a method…a way in which they say things…so people begin to question what they really know about you.
Narcissists Do Not Care About Evidence
When you’re being gaslighted, you initially think it’s a matter of evidence. But, what we so often painfully find out, is that it was never about lack of knowledge or proof. Because even after we prove – with solid, irrefutable evidence – that what we’re saying is true…the narcissist still denies it!
Toxic Breakups: The Harm of Friends and Family Staying “Neutral”
Toxic relationships are messy. And they often get even messier when they end. Partly because of the narcissist’s use of a smear campaign. And partly because of the reactions you get from friends and family about the relationship ending.
Why Do Narcissistic Relationships Leave You Feeling So Isolated?
People who’ve never personally experienced or witnessed narcissistic abuse just don’t “get it”. They tell you to move on, get over it, and let it go. But it’s just not that simple.
Chelsey’s Articles
Discover transformational articles on healing from narcissistic abuse, interpersonal trauma, toxic relationships, gaslighting, thriving as an introvert/empath, self-worth, intuition, anxiety, relationships, self-trust, boundaries, and more!
How Narcissists Use Mental Health Concepts Against You
We mix real mental health terms into our daily lives, calling someone we don’t like a “narcissist” and claiming to have “bipolar” because we can’t decide what we want for lunch. But when we flippantly use serious mental health concepts in a frivolous way… The terms lose their significance and impact. “Narcissist” went from a word no one used – to a word everyone uses.
Is There a Difference Between Dysfunctional and Abusive Behavior?
How can you tell if you’re in a relationship with a *toxic* person (and need to run away immediately)... Or a *dysfunctional* person? I believe many times we end up tolerating toxic relationships because we aren’t sure where the line is. We think things like: We can...
Are You Walking On Eggshells In Your Relationship?
“Walking on eggshells” is a term we often associate with physically abusive relationships. It’s the idea that you end up feeling like you have to “walk on eggshells” so you don’t *upset* the abuser - in this way, you’re trying to keep yourself safe. Walking on...
People Lie – But Their Actions Do Not
We should be looking *much* more closely at someone’s actions than their words. People can say anything they want. We use the same process (speaking) to tell both a truth and a lie. Many people become overwhelmed with trying to decipher what’s healthy or unhealthy,...
The Hidden Trauma Associated With A Neglectful Narcissist
When you’re being devalued by a neglectful narcissist, they put you down in subtle ways. They act like you don’t exist. If you cry, they don’t console you or show emotion. If you talk to them, they look right through you. If you try to connect with them, they give you a punishing silent treatment. Over time, the neglect adds up and starts impacting you in ways you may not even recognize as being caused from their abuse.
Healthy People Don’t Play Games In Relationships
Do you know why you always feel so confused, foggy, and disoriented when dealing with toxic people? Because you’re only EVER dealing with the tip of the iceberg. What they’re SAYING vs. what they’re DOING (when you’re not looking) - are two VERY different things. So...
The Facade of a Narcissist
Are narcissists *always* cruel?Why can they be both nice AND mean at times?They don’t treat everyone poorly - maybe I’m the problem? Let’s break this down. Most narcissists are very charming, act like social chameleons and can blend in seamlessly into any environment....
What Are Flying Monkeys And How Can They Harm You?
Walking away from or setting boundaries with toxic people is difficult enough on its own. But add in flying monkeys? And it can feel near impossible. You see, narcissists can only survive if people believe their lies and manipulations. That’s why they’re often very...
Relationship Myths That Will Destroy You
Some relationships myths will destroy you, here’s why. We’ve all heard them. Relationship advice that’s supposed to “help” you. It tells us what to believe about relationships. How to make relationships “work”. And what you can and can’t expect from a significant other. Some are based on wise truths. But most are overly simplified opinions that should never have been normalized in the first place.
The Facts About Reactive Abuse
Reactive abuse happens when a person (the victim) eventually reacts to the abuse that is happening to them. For example, if someone has chronically demeaned, belittled, or criticized you, and you eventually lash out and yell at them, that’s reactive abuse.
Why Does It Get Worse After Marrying A Narcissist?
If narcissists don’t really want to commit…then why do they get married? It’s a legitimate (yet misguided) question. Because when narcissists decide to get married, their behavior doesn’t change. They will still gaslight, minimize, belittle, and demean you.
The Real Purpose of a Smear Campaign
Smear campaigns aren’t as simple as the narcissist just spreading lies about you. Narcissists are masters of manipulation. They have a method…a way in which they say things…so people begin to question what they really know about you.
Narcissists Do Not Care About Evidence
When you’re being gaslighted, you initially think it’s a matter of evidence. But, what we so often painfully find out, is that it was never about lack of knowledge or proof. Because even after we prove – with solid, irrefutable evidence – that what we’re saying is true…the narcissist still denies it!
Toxic Breakups: The Harm of Friends and Family Staying “Neutral”
Toxic relationships are messy. And they often get even messier when they end. Partly because of the narcissist’s use of a smear campaign. And partly because of the reactions you get from friends and family about the relationship ending.
Why Do Narcissistic Relationships Leave You Feeling So Isolated?
People who’ve never personally experienced or witnessed narcissistic abuse just don’t “get it”. They tell you to move on, get over it, and let it go. But it’s just not that simple.
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